Relationships : Liability or Authority

Relationships Conflicts-

Affection with Attention

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We are humankind, scientifically named as homo sapiens, known for relations, connections, dependability, affection, emotion, interaction and much more. As we called Man is a “Social Animal '' We cannot live alone and cannot make this world alone. Our family, friends and loved ones are important to us, and they play a special role to raise us as a person, what we are today. Our personality is individually developed as per our surroundings depending upon our family and environment, where we have been brought up as a child.

There are many relations in our life as a human mother, father, sister, brother, son, daughter Uncle- Aunts as maternal and paternal basis. And much more specifically our life partner which we are open to choose as in our choices. We like to live life with people, who are of our liking and interest. We live in social boundations and are forced to deal with our own people.

However, there are few relations in our life, which become panic for us without our faults. Many times in our life we fall into unwanted relationships inadvertently, which we are reluctantly adopted by the times. More often in the matter of Life partners many people regret choosing our partner as not of their choice and interest. Sometimes in the pressure of elders or other circumstances we tied into unpleasurable relationships. Or sometimes it happens due to hasty decisions.

Furthermore, even our blood relations also hurt us, which creates so many hurdles in progress of life and peace of mind. People are tied into relations, whom we believe or trust, are not so promising as we think them to be. The relations pinch us a lot with expectations, demands and authorities. When we lose our freedom and joys because of others, ' liability or interference in our life. Even somehow rivalry in our close relations oppressed us to a level that creates so much anxiety and irritation.

While some bonds in relationships make us secure and stable, some around them create barriers to our independence and freedom not allowing us to follow our aspirations. We feel shackled in chains of this social system, which creates hurdles in fulfilling our desires and dreams. Depending upon the reliability of relations our worries and sorrows haunt us to not be able to follow our wishes. Sometimes We get to be so exploited or cheated in the name of relations. The toxic relationships eat up our calm and patience and make us weaker than actually we are.

The relationships work on the formula of give and take equally without self mean where mutual understanding is the most important part. Being sensitive towards others emotions and feelings, and respecting them matches our tuning to others cordially. The relations, which are just for physical needs never can let us feel the pain of others. The conservatism prevails in society in the name of culture and traditions lead us to frustrations and desperation because flight of our emotions or sentiments never want to get bound by the social obligations.

The base of success of any relation based on sacrifice for others by understanding their temperament and supporting them. It is necessary to get the spiritual connection between them. Everybody is hungry for love, care and share in life. And expects the same from others, whatever is being given by them.

But the problem rises in relations when we try to make authority on others in the fake means of relations. People get into relations on the name of society they try to suck others potential just for their own needs fulfillment. Relationships can never work until we don’t learn to give others space respecting their individual freedom.

We are born to live in relationships to pay our liabilities. Our first intention should be figuring out the reason to be in relation with someone, whether the relation is giving us happiness and positivity or creating a burden upon us to make it work. The relationships threaten us to be imprisoned in the barriers of society and customs.

There is no meaning of relations until they are not able to keep us happy and content. Bearing such relations suck our soul and make us so dissatisfying in front of others. Relations become strained if we impose our authority on others. No matter in which relation you are, whether it is blood relations, social relations or with your life partner. Our focus should be on fulfilling our liabilities for them without imposing authority. Because Authenticity of relations depends on what you have given as per your liability towards it, if you have fulfilled your own part then, you might have a little reason to be authority on others.

The relations can make our life heaven or hell. We should have freedom to make and break relations, which are not of our use, which are hurting and damaging to us, which deviate us from our true soul mission in this world and entangles us to do unwanted practices. Our priority is to keep our vision for life, for what we are born for, afterwards all social responsibilities need to be completed. We should never forget that relations come in our life as a fruit of our good or bad karma. We have to decide, whether they need to be proceeded or terminated.

when we throw out the negativity of the relationships from our life. We feel more joyful and content in life. The emptiness inside us creates more space to invite fruitful and healthy relations by enhancing our level of understanding towards others.